Dear Bubby,
I am employed as an investigator by the state. Often it requires that I confront individuals, place myself into unknown environments, and act assertively. Outside of my job I am a homebody, count myself lucky to wear matching colors, and to put it mildly, in most social situations I am shy and awkward. Do you think I am working in the right career?
Confrontily Shy
Dear Confrotily Shy,
As an employee of the state you immediately command respect so stand tall and be direct - don't flinch - look right at the one you are questioning -- remember you have the upper hand - be direct, forceful but not overbearing. You should get your answers -- unless the subject is spaced out.
As for your social life - you must always look self assured and attractive - dont overdress but be well dressed and smile - you are sure to be noticed - and when you talk to anyone smile and keep the chat low key - be sure of yourself. If you are sure of yourself you wont be awkward -- you will be attractive.
Good luck
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