Dear Bubby,
My 28-year-old husband has been using one of those anti-balding medications for a few years since his hair started thinning. Lately it hasn't been working as well. There is a spot in the back that is getting quite thin, but he doesn't know it because he can't see it in the mirror. I know other people are noticing it too so it's just a matter of time before he realizes it (his family will be quick to point it out) and he would hate to think that people had been noticing it for a while before him. I think a different haircut might make it look better.
So should I tell him about it and suggest a different cut, or let him live in ignorant bliss a while longer? I don't want him to think that I mind if he goes bald.
In a hairy situation,
Angelina
Dear Angelina,
Have you ever heard that expression, "bald men are the best lovers"? When I was young that was a set phrase.
I know there are a lot of ointments and gels that are supposed to cover up bald spots. But did you ever think -- if it really helped, the firms selling this "stuff" would soon go out of business -- there would be no bald heads any more.
I am sure that your husband knows of that little sparse spot but doesn't want to tell you about it. However, you could if you want to suggest that he try a different hair style. I see men who wear their hair long in the back. Did you ever watch TV and just lately notice Donald Trump? His hair is quite long over the top of his ears and on the back of his head. Maybe it is his style and maybe he too has a spot to hide.
My grandson also has a thinning spot and his hair was so curly but it runs in his maternal grandmothers family -- so what? We love him and I am sure you love your husband too. If that is your only problem with him -- just love him and let nature take its course. It will anyway.
Best results.
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