"Listen To Bubby" | Session #5
I'm 17 years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. Everything has been going great. I'm pregnant and I dropped out of school. I feel like my life is going down hill. But lately it's been looking up.
The only thing wrong is that my boyfriend seems so immature. All he cares about is himself. Well, that's what it seems to me. Maybe I'm just being to sensitive because I'm pregnant. But he always thinks about himself and it's like he only wants everything for himself. Like we went shopping and I went shopping for the baby and he went and got like $150 worth of stuff for him. I didn't get anything for myself. Now today he wants me to ask my dad to take him to the store for another pair of shorts because one pair of shorts was missing.
What should I do?
Dear Young Mommy,
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I really pity you. Your boyfriend is a - I am not gonna swear - oh, who cares, he's a stupid, self-centred man.
By 11:26 AM, at
First off, I agree. He is being immature, and selfish. Maybe he doesn't realize that you are carrying a life inside of you that's going to change everything. You certainly seem to realize it though, and are already preparing for what you need to give up for the baby.
I do have to say you shouldn't have dropped out of school. Later you're going to wish for some time for you, and you might not be able to get it. You're also going to wish you took the time to finish up high school. Do you have a community college near you? Start taking classes there. Maybe just one at a time, but take something. Exercise your mind and your body. Stay busy and focus on your developement as well as your child's and your relationship. Don't let yourself become lost.
The good thing about community colleges is you do not have to be a high school graduate to attend them, and after attaining some credits there, you can transfer to a university. if you wanted to.
Hang in there. Look for the good things to look forward to. And stay positive. :)
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