My mother-in-law lives far away and has to fly to visit us. She always schedules week-long visits and it's too long for us. We tried suggesting that she visit for a shorter time but she said her feelings were hurt so we told her we didn't mean it, that she can visit as long as she wants. I understand that she wants to see her grandkids, but she's driving us crazy. What do we do?
Visiting Mother in-laws is a tough one. However that should not be your concern. She is your husband's mother and he should discuss it with her. A week really isn't such a long time if she is a pleasant person to have in your house.
Also, since you have children she can spend most of her time with them. If the weather is nice your son could suggest that she take them to the park or the playground -- both she and the children will enjoy that. If the children go to school take her out to lunch and invite a friend or two along - especially if you know someone close to her age -- maybe a neighber. Then she could visit that person and would surely enjoy talking to someone in her age group.
In any case, if there is to be a discussion your husband should have the talk with her -- not you -- you are the ever loving daughter-in-law.
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