Dear Bubby,
I have a friend who thinks she can dance. She tells everyone she can, and that she is so good at it, but she's not. It wouldn't bother me so much if she didn't go out with me all the time. I feel very embarrassed, especially when she makes me dance with her.
I feel like a bad friend. Bubby, am I being shallow?
Lola
Dear Lola,
No, Lola you are not a bad friend.
You are a bad friend if you don't tell your friend the truth - that she is a poor dancer. Exactly not in those words but you might say she doesn't listen to the beat and gets out of step and it might be a good idea if she took a few lessons.
But why dance with a girl? -- no men around? I made it a rule never to dance with another female. If a fellow sees you dancing with another female he may think of a lot of things and won't approach you for a dance. Tell your friend that too. You can get up and sway to the music yourself and that is an invitation for a male to approach you but forget it if you are spending your time with another female - unless you are both beyond that certain stage - see what I mean?
Dance to your hearts content but not with someone who can't dance.
Don't suffer. ♥, BUBBY
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