I never thought of writing to a stranger about my problems, but your blog convinced me in my time of need.
I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We have been pretty happy, though I go to school in LA and he lives in San Diego. I see him almost every weekend.
I just found a stack of Playboy magazines in his room. He tells me that he hasn't taken a look at them. He only throws them away after I almost throw a tantrum. He has a fondness for race cars too and although I like them too, I have tolerated the models in front of them for too long (pinned up in his room, might I add). I don't have the body of a goddess, and everything about these girls revolts me.
Basically, these types of things make me feel stupid and unattractive. He's only 20 yrs old, and I'm turning 19...we're young. Am I just overreacting? What should I do, and what should I tell him?
At 19 I would say that you are more mature than your boyfriend at 20. And at 20, he is still growing and trying everything around him. If you argue about the things that he has on his walls and likes fast cars -- I think he is still a kid or could stay that way for a long time.
I think you should try to find someone who is a little older and thinks about things as you do. I would say that he gets his kicks out of all this as a lot of 20-year-olds do but if that is not your thing, find someone else. If you are living with him, I would suggest you move out and just be friends. You may become his confidant, rather than his sweetheart.
Remember, there are many fish in the sea.
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