In three short weeks I will be getting married to a beautiful woman who I love with my whole being and know without a shadow of a doubt that I want no-one else but her.
Yet as the days go by and the wedding day approaches, I find myself waking up each morning feeling a little more scared than I was the day before. Today I am more scared than I was yesterday, but less scared than I will be tomorrow, if you catch my drift.
Is this normal, to feel the grip of fear getting tighter and tighter? It's not that I'm scared of commitment, but I question my ability to be a good husband. As good as I know my intentions are, what if I turn out to be a bad husband? What if we have children and I turn out to be a bad father? I don't know that I could handle it.
Today's statistics on divorce scare me and I don't want to become another statistic - I want a long, stable, enjoyable marriage to the one person I know is my soulmate.
From your wisdom of life, what can you tell me that will help me to feel more relaxed about getting married and stop me from getting cold feet.
Scared of Confetti
Dear Scared of Confetti,
HAHA Don't be.
But I know how you feel - I felt the same way. Marriage is a giant step but don't run --- walk. Did it occur to you that your fiance may be feeling the same way? Consider this a step through a tunnel but the sun is shining on the other side. Just be yourself. If you find something is not right, the two of you should talk it all out rationally and don't harbor any resentment. And don't go to bed angry.
When you have children, just be an understanding, loving father. Involve yourself with them, play with them. Bathe them -- that is so much fun. Just be yourself and if you truly love this girl it will all turn out OK.
Call me in about 2 years. Good luck and have a happy life.
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