Dear Bubby,
My friend is married to your grandson and I am so happy she sent me an email today about your website because I really need to speak to someone of your generation.
I am 33 years old. The grandmother I was closest to recently passed away and I miss her so much. She truly was my best friend. We spoke about everything and I valued her opinions and advice. You can imagine how lost I feel without her. I am sure your website fills such a void for many other young people so I first want to thank you for being so generous with your time and energy.
Here is my question: I have a 16 month-old son who has been in daycare since September when I returned to work. I feel guilty that I leave him with someone else to care for him but I have to work in order for my family to have affordable health insurance. How can I make sure that he does not grow up feeling resentful? I'm concerned because he is extremely clingy to me when I'm around, almost like he's afraid I'll go away for too long. It also makes my husband feel like "chopped liver". I look forward to your thoughts.
Sincerely, Lonely for Grandma/Son in daycare
Dear Looking for a Grandma,
I wish you would have told me the name of the person married to my grandson. If you have occasion to write again, please include his name. As for the little tike - At 16 months of course he wants his mommy. He is becoming aware of you now - the only person he feels close to. As he becomes interested in other things around him he will play but always know his mommy is near by.
Have you tried a pre-kindergarten group where he would learn to play and get along with other children? There are many around that are very good. At first you can stay there until he adjusts to the environment and gradually leave him for a few hours and increase the time. You will get to meet the other mothers and invite the little ones over to play with your little guy. I think you went back to work a little too soon, but done is done.
Does your husband spend time with the baby? I have a grandson who makes it his business to bathe his little girl when he gets home and plays with her before she goes to bed. She looks forward to the stories he tells. She is also 16 months old. You know having a baby is a full family obligation and love. Let me know how you made out.
Sincerely ♥, BUBBY
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