This may sound shallow, but it's how I feel - my best friend just won a lawsuit in which she was awarded 1.6 million dollars.
We were always the same...we both earned a decent living, but needed to be aware of money like most people. Now she is buyng all kinds of designer things, going on amazing vacations and eating at nice restaurants all the time. We can't spend as much time together because I simply can't afford to keep up with her new lifestyle and frankly I am a little jealous.
What should I do? How do you get past wanting what others have?
Thanks for your advice,
Envious of the Green
Dear Envious of the Green,
If your friend won 1.6 million in a lawsuit settlement she must have had a great deal of suffering and it will affect the rest of her life. Now she is in a state of euphoria and has to get this out of her system. Wait till she gets all the bills from the attorneys. I don't know if she has to pay taxes too. She sounds to me like a drunken sailor. But she'll get over that and her money as well.
What she should do is invest most of it and allow herself some comfort. As for you, if you want to help this friend suggest that she do some financial planning before it is too late - that is helping her. Certainly don't be jealous of her -- I would feel sorry for her. If you want to be her friend, advise her. But if she does not care, tell her a fool and her money are soon parted. Make her think -- if she is not mature -- you be. And from all that "high" life she will lose. Be sorry for her, not jealous and if you can't be in her company --- get a new friend -- she never really was your friend.
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