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Thursday, February 26, 2004
Dear Bubby,

Hi my name is Mary-Ann and I need some help.

Well, I was going out with this boy named Collin for about 3 years and then he started to get interested in other girls, so I said to myself, I am sick of this and I broke up with him and ever since that I have been going out with this guy named Matthew. There is only one bad thing... he doesn't go to my school and that sucks big time.

Well, we just had our School Dance last night and about an hour before the dance Collin called me up and asked me if I wanted to go to the dance with him so I said yes and I thought we would just go as friends. Well, when I got there he gave me a dozen roses and a very sweet card that says "I love you" and had photos of our first dates and little things like that. Well, we were dancing and he kissed me in front of all my friends. Well, they all cheered and stuff.

Well, after that he got on one knee and asked me for my forgiveness and asked me if I would go out with him again and I felt special and half of my heart is with Collin and half with Matthew and I feel bad because I kissed Collin and I really don't know what to do and I don’t want to break any hearts and I have feelings for both of these guys now and i just don't know what do so please help me!!!!!!!!


Dear MaryAnn,
Since you don't mention college I assume you are still in high school. And in high school your feeling are usually referred to as "puppy love" which means exactly what you are going through. In the past 3 years you should have been going out and having fun with a lot of different boys - so you could get to know them. I think you wasted a lot of time with this boy in 3 years. He "broke" up with you and then he "broke" up with another girl and made her unhappy and this will be his style until he matures and maybe it will always be his style.

His display at the party was only to get the attention of the other ""kids". And it was at your expense. Don't give him a second thought and start being friendly with other boys and girls - that will be more fun. You'll see.

Lots of fun and parties.
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