I am a freshman in college and I am still adjusting. I went to an all boys boarding school a few hours from my house so I have experienced living away from home before, but college is very different because it is much bigger and I cannot see the people I know best in the world regularly.
I miss being able to see my friends every day. It is different to only talk to them online or on the phone. It's not the kind of thing a college guy can say out loud easily either. Also I miss my parents and its hard to really talk to them when I can't see them or give them a hug.
Also it is difficult to relate to the girls here. I have met one that I can really talk to but we do not talk as often as we used to. In high school it was a different dynamic with much less pressure since we were in contact with girls much less frequently. Ideally I would like to find a romance, but I think it would be nice if I could just find a few real friends among them.
I have a hard time telling this to my parents or grandparents. My grandmother always tells me how she brags to her friends at the Temple about me. I don't want to shatter their illusions because for the most part I am happy, but I think I'd feel better and do better in school if I was a little happier.
What would you suggest?
If you are in college it is time to grow up. Suppose you took a job in another city -- would you cry for your Mommy and Daddy and old friends? No - you would go out and find new ones. That is part of being away from home. You are on your own - to make your own decisions and judgments. You should discipline your time for your studies --- very important if you want to get somewhere in the field you are interested in.
And you should line up the extra activities the school offers. Go to parties -- if they are not your cup of tea, just make friends on campus. Remember that all the freshmen and sophomores are in the same boat. I too was at your age -- many miles from home, etc. But I knew if I didn't make my own way no one would do it for me.
It just takes a little time -- you'll see. Good luck in your classes and making new acquaintances.
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