I have two questions.
1) I need to know what a good gift would be for a Bat Mitzvah. If I give money, how much? I need some advice on that.
2) I have a "friend" who's been ditching my other friends and I lately to be with a more popular crowd. We used to be really good friends, so it's hard to just cut her off. Also, she only talks to us... sometimes. It's really confusing and I don't know what to do.
Dear Somewhat Stranded,
As for a Bat Mitzvah gift, you can give whatever you feel like giving. It's a present not a purchase that you have to pay the price. I remember many years back a boy was being Bar Mitzvahed and his parents made him a very elaborate party. One of his well known guests sent him a tennis racket and a box of balls. However, a week later the boy received a check with a note of apology saying the tennis racket was just part of his gift. Through the grapevine I heard he had such a great time at the party he was ashamed of his "cheap" gift. So you are the best judge for the gift. Remember - it is your decision. Have fun.
As for your second question. If this so called "friend" gives you and your friends the cold shoulder - why don't you play her game too. Have fun with the friends you have and don't bother with her. If she really wants you as a friend, she will soon wonder why she is left out in the cold by you and your true friends. When she asks "why" - be mature and tell her very nicely that you are teaching her a lesson.
That's how you get to know different personalites.
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