My husband and I have been married for a little over a month, and I can feel us settling into that border line comfort zone where we don't always say, "Excuse me" after we burp. But the larger problem seems to be that I can't lure him away from his video games or fantasy books for any real length of time. Now, even though he's made some effort to cut back, I still find myself angry when he picks up the controller or a book at all. I don't want to have a chip on my shoulder. Am I being selfish?
What should I do?
If you are married just over a month you all still on your honeymoon. Why did you marry him? It seems to me that you should certainly have a talk with him. His bachelor days are over and you should both have lots to talk about and really get to know each other. If you are watching television you should do it together - if you are having dinner, both of you should share cleaning up -- it is fun. He can have his games but play them together. By doing everything together you are learning the meaning of marriage. If this continues I would suggest that you speak to a marriage counselor for help before it gets out of bounds.
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