Right before Christmas, my mother got into a bit of trouble and needed to borrow $500. I didn't mind giving her the money, but I'm curious about what is the best way to talk to her about paying me back. I love her dearly and I don't want to hurt her feelings. Money is such a touchy subject. I hope I don't sound too selfish. Please help!
Dear Confused Daughter,
I don't know why your mother needed the money but it must have been very demoting for her to ask her daughter for the $500.00. As for asking her to give it back to you at this time, maybe she does not have it to give back.
I also know it is most difficult to ask a daughter for money. Have a talk with her -- find out what is troubling her. Could be she needs your love, understanding, and help. And I am sure as a loving daughter you have the ability to help her. Do you need the money now or is it just to put in the bank? No mother would take money from a child and not return it -- it may take a little time so don't rush it.
I had a experience with a friend who was in dire difficulties -- she did not ask me for money but I could see that she needed it. I offered -- she reluctantly took it and in time paid me back and thanked me again and again. And a mother is closer that a friend. Because she is your mother you are here today. Remember, money is the root of all evil -- don't let that happen to you and your mother.
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