Dear Bubby,
I found a group of friends a couple of years ago, and they all share my interests. I know them all pretty well now, except one girl who is kind of shy. She doesn't talk to me a lot, but the rest of my friends tell me that she admires me -- I have no idea why though. She does copy me a lot. Even though I give subtle hints for her to stop copying everything I do, she doesn't seem to understand them. I suppose imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, but her copying me is getting very annoying.
I'm afraid that if I tell her how I feel, she and the rest of my friends won't like me anymore. I want to be friends with her, and I'm trying to, but she's making it hard. Please give me some advice on this. I'd really appreciate it.
Thank you, and keep up the good work.
With heart and a smile,
Jane
Dear Jane,
You and your friends should all mimic "the other girl" until she catches on as to what you are doing. Then you and maybe the others in your crowd should all sit down to lunch with the "other girl" and tell her they don't like this mimicking. Ask her to join the group in your activities and then you all should start practicing being friends. I'm sure that this mimicking was only as sign of admiration.
Just have fun -- ALL OF YOU.
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