Dear Bubby,
I met with a man that I had been chatting with on-line over the Internet. However, when I finally met him face to face, I felt a rush of repulsion go down my spine. He was perfectly nice to me, had good manners, and was even very intelligent. Yet I was not at all interested in him. I am a very sociable person, keep good company and I know that I'm a nice person.
I tried to be considerate of his feelings but I don't think he got any of my hints that I wasn't interested. I am left wondering -- am I a bad person for being repulsed by someone's looks? Obviously he had seemingly good qualities but man, I couldn't handle looking at his face.
Sincerely, Nice Person
Dear Sincerely Nice Person,
If this man did not appeal to you there is no reason for you to develop a friendship with him. All you have to do if you are not impressed with a person is be pleasant and make an excuse to leave if you are meeting him outside of your home. For a first meeting from the internet or anywhere else you should never invite a person to your home until you get to know that person better.
You have certain qualities in mind that you expect to find in a man so don't sell yourself short. The right one will come along. It is all part of the game. Just be alert.
Good luck
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