Dear Bubby,
I work as a software engineer and have a good job, but the work is unfulfilling to me and my soul feels empty. I feel like I am just going through the motions and sleepwalking through life towards the grave. Part of me would love to chuck it all and be a musician, but I am afraid of poverty and failure. How can I lead a full, meaningful life without fear or regrets?
Thanks, Stuck
Dear Stuck,
There is no such thing as living your life without fear or regrets. They are part of growing up - maturing and living. Without these feelings you would soon be a very dull person. So get intersted in something. You say you are in a profession that evidently pays you well since you refer to living in poverty if you leave it. I would say I doubt that you would live in poverty.
Get interested in the world around you. It is so big - vast and diversified not only in your profession but also in the world and people around you. My professor in college always said that only 5% of the graduates remain in the professions they were trained. The rest find other avenues in life.
Don't be afraid. Sometimes it's dark before the storm and when the light comes you will appreciate it more. I know - I've been there !!
Take a chance and good luck.
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