Lately I've been feeling as though I hardly have any friends. I know I do, but some of the close friends that I have are making new friends, and I feel left out. I think it'd be a great idea if I started hanging out with other people too, but I'm a horrible conversationalist. I don't know how to start the conversation! I'm fine when others come up to me, but I have a hard time approaching other people.
Do you have any tips for me?? They'd really help a lot.
Sincerely, Left Out and Helpless
Dear Left Out and Helpless,
You must get out and mix with other people. Put your shyness in your pocket - smile and say hello when you go out -be it school or work. You must always be on the alert for new friends. That is how one grows...Do you belong to a club - a group at your place of worship? Meet these young people - say hello, smile, and say most anything that comes to your mind that will draw the attention to you. Talk about the weather - about the place you are in at the moment - and one word leads to the next.
When your current friends see that you are mixing, they will soon come to join you. A true friend will never let you down. Go out and explore.
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