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Monday, March 22, 2004
Dear Bubby,

Over the weekend my husband helped a close friend of mine, "Joan", set up her computer and get online. "Joan" is like a mother to me and I am very close to her.

My husband is a "do it for you first, then explain it to you at the end" type of guy. I told him to take it slow with her. We both agreed he would fix it for her first, then explain it to her at the end slowly.

But when he got there, she kept nagging him and telling him that "the book" says to do it differently. At one point he got huffy and told her that if she was so smart she could install it herself and he would leave. She backed off quick and they made a few jokes, but the tension in the room was as thick as butter can get.

But as soon as we got to work on Monday, she told everyone how my husband yelled at her. I feel like everyone will think I married a monster. She is also made it VERY known to everyone that she dislikes my husband. Joan has even talked openly in front of me to the other co workers about my hubby.

How can I nicely say that is not his normal side and to give him another chance. She is very hard headed. My husband has told me that he would offer to help her again, but he is afraid to offer his help now.

I am torn between a good friend and my husband. When she talks about him the way she does, it makes me feel bad. And the more that is said the worse I feel.

So confused!

Dear Lynn,
I think you should grow up -- torn between your husband and your friend? What friend? If she needed help and your husband offered to take care of her problem, she should be grateful. Next time -- let her call in someone and pay the price. You should speak to your friend and tell her that she has been ungrateful and that she owes you and your husband an apology. Then you will find out how good a friend she is. I would not spend much time with such a friend and I certainly would not discuss anything with her except Good Morning. Your husband seems like a really nice person ready to help anyone who needs help. Give him a big hug and be happy.
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Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

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Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

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