My girlfriend of nearly 3 years was expecting me to propose to her on Valentine's day. I didn't and now she is VERY unhappy with me and wants to break up. She thinks I'm not committed enough to her because I haven't asked her to marry me yet. But in reality, I want to ask her! I've just had financial difficulties and want to pay off my debt and then save some money before I ask her. What should I do?
An Engaging Fellow
Dear An Engaging Fellow,
You are a very foolish young man. If you really love this girl and want to marry her - by all means marry her or you will lose her. Together you will be able to pay off your debts (are they from your education???) In time these debts will be gone and you will still have your love and maybe even a family of your own which is greater than all the money in the world. I know -- I've been there.
This girl must really love you or she would not have spent 3 of her young years with you. I say think -- if you really love her -- marry her. If you are just satisfied with her knowing she is around -- stop wasting her time. Let her get on with her own life. I'd like to know the end of this story.
Best of luck.
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