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I have a friend that I have known for 9 years. We were very close and even called ourselves sisters. But lately we have distanced out and haven't talked much. I do miss talking to her about our lives, but for the past few years our conversations revolve around "guys" (I think this is where the problem lies). I have discovered that my friend is "boyfriend dependent," and unfortunately it hasn't been with the right boys.
I don't know how to tell her what her problem is, and I'm afraid that she is too wrapped up in her own world to care. I no longer feel the same connection that we had, and when we talk on the phone now it feels like we have nothing to say.
Can you help me, Bubby, help my sister? I really miss the "good old days."
I think you and your friend are aging a little different. She is ahead of you when it comes to "boy talk" but I think in no time at all you will also be talking about the opposite sex. It's very natural. Just you wait and see.
I remember that I felt that way a long time ago. My sister was only 15 months older than me. We shared our thoughts together - we slept in the same bed - and one day everything changed. She talked about the boys and I talked about playing "kid stuff" games. And then one day a new boy moved in to our neighborhood and all I talked about was this boy compared to the other boys. It sneaks up on you and you start to mature. So don't worry about it - you will still remain friends. My sister and I did and when it was time to go to college - we went together and were closer than ever.
Keep your old friend - an old friend is a best friend. When you get on in years you will reminisce about all this.
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