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I am 22, in my first year of medical school, and have been dating a very nice young man (age 23) for a year. He just got a good job that will be very far from where I am in school. I'm sad because I won't be able to see him as often. Bubby, first year of medical school has been incredibly hard. And now that he's moving, I don't know how to successfully navigate our long-distance relationship while being in medical school at the same time. I am already drained of energy.
I do love him, and I'd like to be happy for him...but I don't think I'll be able to make as much time for him if he moves away. Am I over reacting? Why didn't he think about me before he decided to get a job so far away? What should I do?
Thank you for listening,
I think that first you must make up your mind - do you want him or do you want to get your Medical degree? At this time in your life you can't have both. But it seems to me that you should apply yourself to your chosen profession - study hard and achieve your goal. If your relationship with this young man is to grow into something more, distance will not be the issue. He will make the decision for himself and you must make your decision yourself.
Time solves a lot of problems if you give it time. I know you feel as though you are losing a lot now but you are not. You will reach your goal and along the way you will meet many people-male and female who will help you and love will come along. I, too had a distance problem but it all turned out fine after a while and yours will too.
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