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Dear Bubby,
I've been searching for jobs recently and have come across a few positions that interest me. However, many require that I relocate to another state or even another country. The pay is a lot more than what I make now and I would gain a lot of experience if I did get hired. I am a single female with no kids (almost 26) and can afford to relocate.
The only thing holding me down is that I would be far away from my family. I am very close to my sisters and my parents. I live on my own but see them every week. I look forward to spending time with them, sharing meals with them, and knowing what is going on in their lives. We already have a brother that joined the military and moved cross country. I don't know how my family would handle another one of us leaving.
My question to you is, is it worth uprooting yourself, your life, and your stability, for a job? Is it worth leaving your family behind and starting a new life with nothing else besides the promise of more money? Bubby, I am really torn by these options and I don't know what I should/want to do. Can you please guide me to hopefully make a correct decision?
Keep in mind, I don't have the job just yet...
Thanks for listening,
Melina
Dear Melina,
I think it would be a good idea to consult your brother since he is in the military and is certainly away from home and committed to the service. He should be able to give you good advice. If this job is in the field that would help your career and is in this country, I would say give it a try - if you can sustain yourself for a period of time. I would not recommend taking a job overseas -- east or west. The world is very unstable at this time and I would not put the money aspect ahead of what you have now - a happy family and a good job and independenceance of having your own apartment.
I think you should try to meet other people and build friendships. It seems to me that you are a clever young lady and that is the best way to get rid of some boredom. If you want a better job, why don't you go to a "Head Hunter" firm, present your resume and let them find you a better job.
Just remember: money is round and can roll either away from you or to you. Do you want happiness or money?
Good luck.
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