Congratulations on your 88 years and this wonderful website.
My request is for your advice on getting older. I am 57 and life has certainly taken a turn. I used to play tennis, racquetball, softball, volleyball, go canoe and kayaking, and take hiking and back packing trips. I used to dance till the early morning hours and still work all day. I was very active in several social groups. I traveled quite a bit all over the world.
In 1981 I made a move from a cold climate to a very warm climate and made a drastic change in work. I used to stand and walk and be physically active, and I now sit in front of a computer much of the day. I take three walking breaks a day, about one mile each. My evening walk is two miles before dinner.
I am not completely retired yet. I still work part time at home doing bookkeeping. I go out once in a while, but nothing like I used to. I sew a lot for myself as well as for a quadriplegic friend of mine. I draw and paint a little for recreation.
Since my move I have gained weight and grown discouraged. I am emotionally much older than my years. Do you have any suggestions for us women without families who are now approaching the golden years? To me they seem a little gray.
Dear Old Crone,
After such a busy life I would think you would be glad to do something less taxing - like the computer. But then again once active you want to be active no matter what the age. But I think for a change of pace why don't you become interested in some charity. If you were to choose children you would feel young again. It is a very rewarding experience - the children's smiles will be your smiles and you will be accomplishing a great deal. I see that you are already helping elderly people which is very good.
You seem to be a pretty well rounded person - you exercise - paint - work - do you go the theater? Join an organization - you will meet a lot of people and they will certainly keep you busy and I am sure you will meet a lot of people and go as a group to a lot of places.
Give it a try and stay young.
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