My boyfriend (age 23) and I (age 19) have been dating for 8 months and live together. He says he wants to go with me to college, marry me, and all those permanent things. This all seems rather romantic, but its scary as well! He's had 5 more years of life, he's been to college, had fun on his 21st birthday - all the rights of passage I have yet to even reach. I'm worried that staying with him or dragging him to college with me will hamper me in the end and make me regret missing out on being young and foolish. But at the same time I know we can't temporarily cut off the relationship and then start up again when I'm older.
Do you have any suggestions? Thanks bunches Bubby!
Sincerely, A Silly Girl
Dear Silly Girl,
At least you named yourself right. At nineteen you are still a kid and you should not have any "relationships." You should be mixing with a lot of other friends and getting to know and understand their personalities. As for taking him to college with you -- that's a joke. You have to be free to meet other young girls and boys and maybe as you spend four years at school you will then meet someone better for you.
Don't tie yourself down at 19 with a young man of 23. He has to grow up too. What will he do sitting around the campus waiting for you to come out of class? Forget it. Go to school -- prepare for your future -- and the right one will come along when the time is right. I would hate to think of you tying yourself down at 19. There is more than that in life.
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