Dearest Bubby,
About a year ago I met someone. He lives nearly 700 miles away, so we hardly get to spend time together. I graduate college in two years, he graduated three years ago and has a strong job.
My heart patters when I hear his voice, and I get butterflies when I think of him. I truly believe he's the one. I love him so much my heart wants to leap out of my chest. When I hear his voice, it calms all of my fears. He is the most wonderful gentleman I have ever met, and actually ranks up there with my father!! (2nd to daddy of course, but he's up there!) He is extremely intelligent, family oriented, and has a strong faith - the three most important things in the world to me.
Shortly before we saw each other again, I was diagnosed with temporary facial paralysis. I was extremely self-conscious and embarrassed. But he told me I was beautiful, and said bells palsy can't touch the beauty I have in my mind and my heart.
So what could the problem possibly be? I am absolutely terrified! I have been independent for all these years and now I feel like I have turned into mush. Should I tell him how much I feel for him, or just keep saying, "let's see where it'll go"? I have tried to forget him, or stop these feelings, but it's impossible.
Do you have any advice for this love-struck woman?
Sorry for my ramblings.
Love,
A.
Dear A.,
First you must be under a doctor's care and take care of that palsy. Many years ago my friend had the same problem. It came on as a result of a bad cold. However, it took some time but she did recover. The best to you.
Now -- this young man -- I think you are a wise lady telling him, "we'll see what happens." You still have to finish your college program and I can tell you from experience it is a must. I had a similar experience when I was in college and when "he" said to me, "I am going to marry you" I laughed and said, "I have two more years in college." And his answer was, "That's OK - we'll wait." I saw him once a month but I got lots of letters and phone calls.
Three years later we got married and had a wonderful marriage.
The same to you.
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