I'm 23 years old, single, and in med school. I'm a nice, witty girl when I'm with my friends. I have a pretty good sense of humor. I'm interested in contemporary literature, movies, and the wild outdoors. However, I find it hard to have casual conversations with people who aren't medical professionals because they're pretty much "in the real world" and I'm still not. School has taken over my life, and my free time is spent either sleeping or contemplating my lonely singlehood.
My good friend is getting married next month. I'm happy she found the right man, but I envy her. I'm hoping I'll meet a potential boyfriend at her wedding (it's probably the only social function I'll get to attend in a long time). I don't think I'm very attractive physically, although I could try to win someone over with my personality. I'm apprehensive because I seem dull when I'm with new people.
I hope you can give me some tips on personality development. Thanks. Love your blog, by the way.
Lonely and Lifeless, MD 2006
Hi MD or future there of,
I can't see anything wrong with you. Don't worry about being an "Old Maid" at 23. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you. Personally I think 23 is too young to be married - a boyfriend - yes - but not married. You are absolutely doing the right thing when you concentrate on your studies. It's not easy to become a doctor but if that is what you want - let it be your prime objective.
Boys at 23 are still a little immature and I think you are beyond that. Still, it is nice to have companionship with young men. Do you spend time in labs with some "guys"? - get to know them - start the conversations without being forward. Talk about your plans for the future - what field are you interested in - are there get-togethers on campus? If so, go to them on weekends.
When I was in college I worked hard during the week because I made up my mind to be "tops" but I did take advantage of fun on the weekend. Don't shut yourself off (except before exam time.) I can tell you when you graduate - your grades mean a lot and the right people (your teachers mean a lot). Right now go out - meet the "guys" and have fun.
Don't knock your looks. I'm sure your personality and smile will take you far.
Good luck on a wonderful future.
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