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Monday, May 24, 2004
"I took your advice but..."

On May 12 we got a sweet letter from a young girl named Lisa who was, like, totally in love with this guy. She wanted to tell him how she felt, but her problem was that "I am going crazy because ... It's real hard when you are a very shy person. But I just don't know what to do to get his attention."

Bubby was very supportive and gave Lisa some great ideas about how to capture the fancy of this young fella. She suggested sharing a table in the cafeteria, joining a club he was a part of, bonding over instruments. She advised Lisa, "Once you strike up a conversation with him, you will know if you really like him. Or, if he is not up to your expectations - drop him and find another boy. I would be interested to know how this turns out."

Well, Bubby got her wish. This week we heard from Lisa again. And she needed a wee bit more help from Bubby...

Hi Bubby,
This is Lisa. I did what you told me to do. Your advice worked, but he just told me that he did not like relation ships. So we are just friends. Can you tell me how to make him like me?


Dear Lisa (again),
Well, you have taken a step in the right direction. When this boy said he does not like relationships -- what does he mean by that? Relationships can mean a lot of things - some you don't need until you get older. But by being "just friends", like meeting here and there in school or in the cafeteria or maybe attending one of the school games - he could come with a few of his friends and you could be with yours, but you would mix. That can be fun. And gradually he will look forward to seeing you. That is how friendships develop to more.

Be subtle but let him take the initiative. If he is still a "wet blanket", look for some other boy and maybe he will wake up. I know it is tough to be a teenager but stick to it.

Good luck.
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Bubby is our 88, 89, 90, 91, 92, 93 94 year old grandmother.
A few years ago we introduced her to the internet and we've been getting daily e-mails from her ever since. When she was 87, we began this website. We now believe she is the oldest blogger on the Internet.

Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

Now with this new website, Bubby can finally share her wisdom with the rest of the world. And she's excited about it! (Which confuses us, because she used to say we were all she needed.)

Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

So, are you looking for advice on food, work, a broken heart, or the perfect bat mitzvah present?

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