"I took your advice but..."
On May 12 we got a sweet letter from a young girl named Lisa who was, like, totally in love with this guy. She wanted to tell him how she felt, but her problem was that "I am going crazy because ... It's real hard when you are a very shy person. But I just don't know what to do to get his attention."
Bubby was very supportive and gave Lisa some great ideas about how to capture the fancy of this young fella. She suggested sharing a table in the cafeteria, joining a club he was a part of, bonding over instruments. She advised Lisa, "Once you strike up a conversation with him, you will know if you really like him. Or, if he is not up to your expectations - drop him and find another boy. I would be interested to know how this turns out."
Well, Bubby got her wish. This week we heard from Lisa again. And she needed a wee bit more help from Bubby...
This is Lisa. I did what you told me to do. Your advice worked, but he just told me that he did not like relation ships. So we are just friends. Can you tell me how to make him like me?
Dear Lisa (again),
Well, you have taken a step in the right direction. When this boy said he does not like relationships -- what does he mean by that? Relationships can mean a lot of things - some you don't need until you get older. But by being "just friends", like meeting here and there in school or in the cafeteria or maybe attending one of the school games - he could come with a few of his friends and you could be with yours, but you would mix. That can be fun. And gradually he will look forward to seeing you. That is how friendships develop to more.
Be subtle but let him take the initiative. If he is still a "wet blanket", look for some other boy and maybe he will wake up. I know it is tough to be a teenager but stick to it.
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