I am a 26-year-old woman looking for love. I met a 49-year-old man in a dance class I took up not long ago. He is only the second guy I have been with in my life. Things got carried away and it was good for a while.
The truth is he is everything that I want in a man. But although he does not look his age, I can't get over the stigma that he is older than me. Do I just look past it or do I move on and find someone else?
This man is almost twice your age and that seems like a lot. At 26 you should be looking for a younger man that might develop into a future. I doubt that you and this man will marry or if he would ever want to be a father. Has he been married before? I am sure he likes being admired by a young woman and may even brag about it to his friends. "That's macho stuff."
I do think you should look for greener fields. You are young and you should be seeing younger men who are your age or even up to 35. I know of many young women married to men ten years older - including my sister. But I don't see a 26-year-old tying herself down with a 49er. A friend yes, but that is all.
He may be a good dancer, but what else? Try dancing with some younger men. Look around - they're there.
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