I work in a retail store where there are people working around the clock. I work in the office and so I know most of the people who work there fairly well. Because I generally work the afternoon-to-night shift, I also get to talk to the people who work overnight. One overnighter and I have gradually become friends over the past few months. We don't get to talk very much because I leave soon after he gets there. Anyway, to make a long story short, I'm interested in dating him. But, I have no idea if he's interested or not...
A friend and I talked him into going to a concert with us. He came, but we weren't able to talk too much (we went in separate cars, the music was REALLY loud, etc). It's hard to ask him to join me and my friends in group activities (like going to the movies) because of our varied work schedules. We have different interests and lifestyles, but I still find him fascinating.
I guess my problem is that I can't read him. How can I gauge how much he likes me? How can I tell if he's interested in me at all? Please help!
I think that if you are interested in someone - the best way to find out what he is made of - ask him. Do you ever get the chance to lunch with him at the store? That is a good time to ask about his likes, dislikes plans for the future, etc.
You say that you speak at the store. Is it just Hello -- or do you have conversations? If so, ask him about himself -- what music he likes, movies? sports? etc. If he wants to get to know you better he will open up and talk. If he is an introvert and has nothing to say - I would suggest you don't waste time on him.
Links to this post:
0 OPINIONS ADDED
"Help Me, Bubby!" Disclaimer
By submitting a letter to this website, you grant Help Me, Bubby! permission to publish it on this site or elsewhere including print publications. Your letter will only include an anonymous signature that you provide or that we use to substitute for your real name. Your email address will never be included or distributed. Due to the large number of letters received, there is no guarantee that a letter will be responded to. Any information or advice given at Help Me, Bubby! is not intended to provide an alternative to professional medical treatment or to replace the advice or services of a physician or psychiatrist. Neither Bubby nor her granddaughters are professional therapists or medical experts. If you have any serious medical or mental problem, please consult a professional. Although all this advice is offered lovingly from the heart and in good spirit, we are not responsible in any way for your decision to accept or reject the advice or the results thereafter.