I am 17 and I've always been known as very loud and over-the-top in my personality. However, it recently occurred to my that the main reason for my behavior is because I am painfully shy. I can't seem to find a way around acting the fool, but I know it is hardly making me gain friends.
I really need to discover a new way of acting or controlling my behavior since I am hoping to go to university next year. I am terrified that I will not be able to make any friends and be hated by all. I hate the way I behave and really need to find a way out. Please help me.
If you know what the problem is - that is half the battle. So just develop a quieter way of speaking - think before you speak. You sound like a bright girl and you will adjust when you get to the school of your choice.
I remember when I was a freshman in college. It is not easy to adjust but it will come to you. You will see that some girls make a lot of noise and say nothing and others are quiet, have nice smiles and are very friendly. I tried the later and people did notice me.
In addition to your classes, get involved with the other campus activities. That helps a lot and you will meet people that you will like and you may turn out to be friends for life.
Just be yourself and be friendly. You'll do fine.
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