One more thing to say...
Tuesday's letter from the sad bride who was missing her father touched Bubby so much, that days later she felt she still had more to write...
Dear Fisherman's Daughter,
I have been thinking of my answer to you with reference to a prayer from the person who will marry you. And it occurred to me that if you have some little memento of your father's, such as a small bible, a pin, even a tie that is tied around your waist under your gown, you could either hold it or wear it and really have him close to you.
I wish you well. Happy wedding.
♥, BUBBY
Dear Bubby,
I just graduated from high school last June and I'm having a really hard time getting used to my new life. I started college a few states away in September, only to realize I hated it there and move back home. I'm happy with my decision to come back home and take classes at a community college, but I still feel like a lot is missing in my life.
In high school I had a group of truly wonderful friends and since graduating and all going off to different schools it seems as though everyone has been having a great time with their new lives except for me. My whole life I've handled change really badly, but now I want to get over that and learn to enjoy life. I want to be having a great time, too, but I feel stuck and can't seem to motivate myself to make my life better. What should I do?
Sincerely,
Cha-Cha-Changing
Dear Cha-cha,
When I read your letter I remembered what happened to me when I was in college. After my first year and I came home - I got the cold shoulder from "my dear friends". I asked one "why" and she told me that since they all stayed home and I went away they had nothing in common with me. Of course, I felt bad but I realized that they were really not true friends and I set about finding new friends and I did. I called up one that was just an acquaintance and said, "Hi, we have known each other for some time and now that I am back and going to a community college how about getting together?"
Make a date to go for a walk - lunch - movies - if you both play tennis - go to it. And from her friendship I am sure you will meet others. By then your old "friends" will feel left out and will surely call you. If not, you have a new friend.
In your lifetime you will meet many new people - some you will like and remain friends for life and with others time and distance will separate you. But true friends are for life no matter time and distance.
Good luck, smile, be happy.
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