I finally after so many years met a man I like but he lives in South Africa and I live in Israel. He has no will to move here because he has family in South Africa, and I have my family here in Israel and don't want to leave them. Have you any special advice as to solve this problem?
I can see that your problem is almost insurmountable but I have a suggestion. This man - is he visiting Israel or did he have another reason for coming to Israel? Was he looking for a new business or pleasure? How long have you known him and how well have you gotten to know him? How does he feel about you? Is there a future between both of you?
But to help you make up your mind, why don't you take a visit to South Africa and see if you like it well enough to spend your life there. By seeing him in his native surroundings you will get a lot of your questions answered. Enjoy his company in Israel and tell him you will plan a trip to his country after he goes back. You may like it. The country is not so far away but the living and restrictions may be not to your liking.
Go with an open mind -- try it, you may like it.
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