Dear Bubby,
I'm 37 years old and single. A year ago, I broke up with my boyfriend of three years. He is now living with someone else and has a newborn daughter. I'm finally over that relationship and ready to date again, but I have not met many interesting men.
Some of my friends tell me that at my age I cannot afford to be picky and that I should not wait for the kind of love that exists in movies. Instead, I should look for someone who is "good enough" if I want to ever get married and have a family. Are they right? Is it better to compromise, or is it better to be alone - even for the rest of my life - rather than accept second best?
The Old Maid
Dear Old Maid,
You should never call yourself "Old Maid" and give up. I read about many marriages of people in their 30's. What I don't understand is why you lived with this person for three good years. You must have known from the beginning that he was a lost cause. Just be glad you are rid of him.
Now that you are "single" again, try joining some group where you will meet young men your age. I am sure there are many. You can take courses at some university - I think there are some social groups - ask your friends about them. Do your friends or family know of someone you might meet? Do you go to the beach where people your age "hang out"?
But don't think that you have to just settle for anyone. Love and marriage come about when two people meet - share values - want the same thing out of life and are compatible. Just be yourself and get out into the world - you are sure to meet other men.
Good hunting. ♥, BUBBY
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