From the granddaughters:
We receive a lot of letters from young girls who want Bubby to tell them why they don't have a boyfriend. So today we're posting two letters from single young women wondering if they're the only ones out there who can't find love. Because we wanted them both to see (and any other girl out there reading this) that they are not alone.
But that's just our opinion. Let's see what Bubby has to say...
Okay. Here it goes. Well, I am a sixteen year old girl, and I am tired of not having someone who loves me. (At a loss for better words, a boyfriend.) Guys just don't seem to notice me, and it seems that as soon as a guy starts to be nice to me, and I start to like him, he drifts away. It's not like I act differently or anything... Is there something wrong with me? Do I have, like, horrible karma or something?
I went with a guy to Winter Formal one time, but he didn't like me. I was just his accessory. I never get asked to dance at dances. I never have Saturday night dates. I've never been kissed by a guy before. I've never held hands. It seems like I'll always be boyfriend-less.
Please give me some advice, Bubby!
--Just wanting some guy-love
Good Evening Bubby!
I'm 19 years old. I'm intelligent, I go to a good college, I have lots of friends, I think I'm pretty funny and not terrible looking, but I've never been on a date, had a boyfriend, or even been kissed.
It's frustrating for me because I can't seem to find whatever flaw is keeping me from being attractive to the opposite sex or keeping them from approaching me or whatever the problem is. I'm very happy with my life in every other aspect, but I feel like I'm light years behind when it comes to romance.
Any advice on how to meet nice young men my age? How to be the kind of young women that they would want to have a relationship? Anything at all that could help?
To two very lovely young girls,
At your age - girls are far more mature than boys, but give them a little time. Do you go to school sports activities or parties? Don't be shy. Walk up to a young man, ask his name - what class is he in - does he plan to go on to college - does he like to dance? Get his reaction.
For every young man there is a sweet young girl, but sometimes boys are either too slow because they don't know how to approach a girl and some are too aggressive and are obnoxious. But I am sure that your turn will come. Just be yourself.
Do you go to friends parties - if not, why not get together with a few girl friends and have a party. That should turn out for a lot of fun and on your home ground you can let your personality shine.
Try it - you'll like it. Good hunting.
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