My boyfriend and i have been going out for almost nine months and I love him to pieces. He is the most important thing in my life. He always comes first in everything I do and I would give anything to make him happy.
The only trouble is, although I know he cares about me very much, and he says he will always be there for me and that I will always be his princess, I also know that I am not his number one priority in life. He is so concerned with his career and getting as high up as possible that I get very upset thinking that he is moving on and I am being left behind. I feel when things begin to change and he moves away he will forget about me and I will left out in the cold. I can't go with him as I am planning to go somewhere else, although I would love to it's just impossible.
What should I do? I just can't let go of him and I can't live without him. I love him so much. Please help me!
After nine months of courtship you should have some understanding where this relationship is going. From what you tell me it is going nowhere. He is stringing you along until one day he will up and go elsewhere.
If I were you, I would put the question directly to him and hear what he has to say. You say that you love him dearly but I am also sure that at this point he has grown to be a habit with you. He may be the love of your life but would he be your partner for life? If he is uncertain - you are wasting your time.
You don't tell me your ages but from what you write you are beyond teen years. Don't be afraid to discuss this topic seriously with him.
Think of your future - not his.
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