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Thursday, August 19, 2004
Hi Bubby,

I feel guilty asking this question when there are people without jobs and without money to put food on the table, etc. ...but this is my dilemma.

For the last 13 years, I've buckled down and worked in a safe but dull job. The benefits are ok and at first the pay was pretty good...there was even a pension program. Now however, all the things that I could point to as beneficial have begun to fall away: the pay hasn't kept pace, my insurance costs more and I've pretty much exhausted my promotional opportunities.

Worse still, each day I'm there I die a little. The work is mindless, without purpose and the organization rudderless. I'm awash in angst but I feel like I simply can't throw away all that I've accrued. My dad worked for one company his whole career, 42 years, and then his organization went out of business. He lost almost everything. I think about this more and more. Is it worth it to stay with a "mostly" sure but fading thing?

Thanks for your thoughts...
Angst-ridden letter writer

Dear Angst,

It is terrible to get up each morning and go to a job that you hate and from your letter you hate where you are. If you have reached your "top" why stay? Stay and look for another job until you find it. I would say you have to look for another job -- it won't find you. Go to an agency - look in the papers and even write to various organizations where you would like to work. If you do what you like to do you will "put your best foot forward". I would suggest you make a resume of your accomplishments and then make the rounds of agencies - check the papers and send your resume to businesses that are looking for what you have to offer.

As for staying in an organization for any length of time is not bad as long as there is potential to move ahead. I know a man who started on a job while in college as a "do it all" and eventually became the Vice President. He saw the business was growing and he had the ability to grow with it. You can never tell when a firm will go out of business. Management sees that things are not going right and they do the same as inaudible do. Just look in the papers and you will see where some firms have merged - and some have shut their doors. The "game is the same" - only the names are changed.

Only you can make your decision. I wish you the very best.


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