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Saturday, February 12, 2005
Before we get to today's question, take a look at this sweet letter Bubby received today:

Welcome back Bubby! Glad to see you're feeling better. :) Take care and happy holidays
-A reader

Thanks, Reader!

Dear Bubby,

I am a solo mum to a beautiful 8 year old boy. I love him dearly but lately all we seem to do is fight. He seems to go out of his way to do little things to annoy me, or emotionally hurt me. This is most unlike his usual behavior.

I have spoken to friends and family about it and they tell me it is just a stage, and that for them he is always a delightful boy. Why then does he create so much unhappiness in our own home? I try to give him as much attention as I can, but it is hard, as I work to support us all week, then have all the house jobs to do at the weekends.

Please can you advise me on what to do to bring back our happy home.

Feeling desperate

Dear Feeling Desperate,

Why don't you start by asking your son to help you with the household chores so that he will learn that it is not easy.

Discuss with him some of the things that are upsetting you so that he will see that he has a lot to learn.

Ask him what he would do in some circumstance and correct him in his thinking.

Give him "food for thought". When he starts to upset you, tell him to stop and think and point out the logic of the situation and get him to discuss the problem with you. Ask him if he were you what would he do.

Speak in a normal tone and rationalize the problem. You can even use a funny situation in the explanation and he will laugh. The next time it happens remind him, "No shouting. Let's talk it out."

Let me hear from you. I know it is not easy to bring up an 8 year old - he is testing you as well as you are teaching him.
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A few years ago we introduced her to the internet and we've been getting daily e-mails from her ever since. When she was 87, we began this website. We now believe she is the oldest blogger on the Internet.

Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

Now with this new website, Bubby can finally share her wisdom with the rest of the world. And she's excited about it! (Which confuses us, because she used to say we were all she needed.)

Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

So, are you looking for advice on food, work, a broken heart, or the perfect bat mitzvah present?

But no dirty words allowed or you'll only get one matzah ball.

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