About a month ago, one of my friends asked me to be his girlfriend, and I said yes without really thinking. I know I made a mistake of not dealing with the problem sooner, but now I really feel bad that I don't return the feelings he has for me, and I think it would be best if we stayed friends, instead of being in a relationship.
My problem is that sometimes I'm not sure how I feel about him. Sometimes I like him, sometimes I wish that he'd give me more space. I think that the best thing to do would be to break off the relationship, but then I get second thoughts. How do I figure out my true feelings for him?
My second problem is that if I do decide to dump him, how do I do it in the nicest possible way? I still enjoy his company as a friend, but without the pressure of being his girlfriend. He is a great guy, and the greatest first boyfriend a girl could have. I'm lucky that I got this experience with him, so how do I keep him in my life after I dump him?
Your wisdom would be thoroughly appreciated, Bubby.
Sincerely, To love, or not to love?
Dear "To love or not to love?",
If you are not sure about this boy the best thing to do is tell him that right now you should be friends and see what the future brings. Don't tie yourself down.
Be friends with other boys and compare them. Then you will know which is best to your liking. When in doubt - leave it out.
A close relationship in school is really a waste. Better to be friends with a lot of boys so you can compare one to another. Not only will you know which boy is nicest, but it will help you later on when you are out in the world.
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