I am 18, and live in London. I have just left University because I was unhappy there and missing all my friends and family. Especially my boyfriend. I was only there for 3 weeks but all I wanted was to come home and spend time with my boyfriend.
My parents were extremely unhappy with my choice to leave university, they think that I left for all the wrong reasons (that I only wanted to come back to be with my boyfriend). I've decided to take a year off, earn money for a car and my own flat and then reapply to a London university. But now that I am back home in London my boyfriend's been acting offish with me, and we can't seem to get back that spark we had before I left???
I feel so alone at this current point. I feel like I don't know where I stand and where I am meant to be in life. I feel like everything is moving around me and that I have no control of my life.
Now I am having regrets about leaving uni. Maybe I did do it all 4 the wrong reasons.
I need some reassuring and help.
Dear Standing Still,
I think the wrong thing you did was leave the university. You did not give yourself a chance to get to know the school or the people in the school. No doubt your boyfriend realized that there were a lot of girls of 18 and he should explore the field. And I say at 18 and being on campus gives you the same oppuntunity: to meet other young men. You may find that what you experienced up until now was just "puppy" love.
I think you should go back to the school or go to another school and take classes that will prepare you for a future. When you are graduated, you can get a car and an apartment. Your future should be first. You will meet a lot of other young men at the university or even after.
You are young. I'm betting on you.
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