I'm 21 years old, and have never had any experience with boys; no dates, no hand-holding, no nothing. It didn't bother me too much at first, because I figured I would start dating in college. Unfortunately, I've been there three years and still no luck. I'm starting to panic.
I've had a crush on this guy for almost 2 years. We work together, so we got to know each other pretty well. I thought he was interested in me since he was
so nice and friendly. Eventually, I confessed my crush to him because I thought he felt the same. He didn't. He told me that although I was a "cool girl", he didn't feel "that way" about me.
That didn't stop me, though. He continued to act friendly towards me, so I asked him if we could see a movie some time. He agreed and we exchanged phone numbers. He even traveled 2 hours to attend my birthday party when I invited him, but seemed distant, and talked more with the other guests. A few weeks later, when I called him for a movie, he said he was busy and didn't offer to reschedule. I am extremely confused.
My logical side tells me to stop acting like an obsessive fool, but my romantic side is hopeful that something may happen between us. Which side should I believe?
Torn, Confused, Inexperienced
Dear Torn, Confused and Inexperienced,
If this young man is not interested in you except as a friend, I think you should forget about him and try to develop a friendship with another boy and maybe this one will wake up. Competition is a very good incentive. Make yourself more attractive. If you are too heavy--loose a few pounds. Change your hair style. At this time in your life appearance is very important.
If nothing works--then I would guess he is just not interested in girls at this time and I would find a new romantic fellow. I'm sure there are plenty on campus.
Good hunting and let me hear from you.
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