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Monday, February 28, 2005
Hi Bubby,

It's nice to find an on-line Bubby since my own Bubby died a few years ago (she was 99 and 11 months). Like you, she had solid, strong opinions that I miss terribly.

Exactly one year after my Bubby died I had a sudden urge to create my own family. After a year of thinking about it, I decided to go ahead and get started. But it was a little more complicated than usual since I am in a Lesbian relationship for 22 years and my father is a fundamental Christian (my mother is a closeted Jew).

My partner and I decided to use an anonymous Jewish donor and 42 weeks later I gave birth to a wonderful little boy. On Feb 19th our son will be one-year old and we are planning a birthday party for him. I have also been thinking about a naming ceremony. I would like to give him a Hebrew name but I'm not sure if a kid's birthday party is the right place for that or if I should have done it sooner.

I have taken him to our local synangogue a few times but have not officially joined the congregation. Should I ask the Rabbi to perform this ceremony? I don't really know anything about naming ceremonies since I wasn't raised Jewish. Any suggestions?


Dear Searching,

It is very nice of you to want to give your little son a Jewish name. In the Jewish religion male babies are named on the eighth day after birth when they are circumcised unless there is a reason to postpone it . There is a religious procedure that is performed by a religious man called a Moal and specially trained for this task.

I think it is a good idea to speak to a Rabbi and he will explain the whole procedure to you. Usually the baby is named for a loved person who has passed on.

It is very nice that you would like to do this and since you want to do it, by all means speak to a Rabbi. He will certainly lead you in the right direction. I wish you the best of everything for you and your son.


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Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

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Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

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