I am 28 years old. I have been dating a man off and on for 3 years. He is 27 and scared of marriage. He leaves me, then he comes back. We've broken up and gotten back together twice. Now he is about to move across country for a while, at least 6 months. So we are basically breaking up again. Each time we get back together, he seems more and more committed. He seems to have grown up a little more each time.
I love this man, but I worry I will be waiting forever. What should I do?
Dear Waiting and Waiting,
I think your waiting and waiting will be just that -- waiting and waiting. Good that this young man is going away for six months. That will give you time to meet someone else. This man has not grown up yet. After dating for some time - six months to a year - your young man should know if he really loves you and admires you and is ready for marriage, or if he is looking with one eye on you and the other eye is looking elsewhere.
Time is marching on and so should you.
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