I'm a 40 yr old guy living in the big city and I'm having a hard time meeting the right woman. I am a good looking guy and work as a professional. My nature is reserved.
I work a great deal and think that time has passed me by building my career. I have dated in the past, but on many occasions have been described as "being too nice". This makes no sense to me. The women I've met were not interested in settling down or having kids.
I've recently joined the JCC and some clubs believing that at least I have a chance being out there.
Although it seems as though the more outgoing guys always seem to attract more attention, it's just not my style. Am I missing something in the dating equation, I can't tell?
Do you have any wisdom on finding the right one?
Thanks, Unlucky in Love
Dear Unlucky in Love,
You tell me very little about yourself so I can't visualize you but I think you must be using the wrong approach. Do you dress like a professional or don't you care how your look? Do you brag about yourself, which is boring and rarely is interesting to women. Do you have men friends you can talk to for help?
Have you tried J-Date? Many a romance has started that way. Try it - you may like it. It is just possible that there may be a woman who is just waiting to hear from you.
Try it - It can't hurt.
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