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Thursday, May 19, 2005
Dear Bubby,

I hope you can help me. My boyfriend and I met last summer, we have been having a long distance relationship. He asked me to marry him but then became unsure. He said he did not want to rush things. I understood this - I love him so much - and wanted to give him the time he needed.

Lately he has been very quiet during our telephone conversations. He came to visit me and again was at times quiet but at times extremely loving and attentive. Three weeks ago we spoke on the phone - he was so quiet and sad so I asked what was wrong. He said we couldn't go on like this and that he didn't know if he wanted us to be together. He said he wanted us to part.

Since then, I have called him a few times, written three letters, sent e-mail -
telling him that while I do respect his decision I do think what we had was wonderful and worth pursuing. He has not answered my calls, nor replied to my letters and e-mail.

My heart is breaking. I can not eat or sleep. I don't know what to do and cannot imagine that I will ever meet someone who I love as much or who has the wonderful qualities he possesses.

Should I continue to write to him occasionally, to tell him that I will always love him and will wait? I hope with all my heart he might miss me and come back to me. How do I mend my broken heart?

Thank you,
Breaking Heart

Dear Breaking Heart,

I think you should take your friend's word at worth and stop writing or calling him. He wants to be left alone. You don't tell me how old you are or how old he is. But I think that if he wants to be left alone you should respect his request.

If he really misses you he will contact you and you will have a better understanding. In the meantime, concentrate on your school work - if you are in school - and meet other young men. You have time to have a serious relationship.

Have fun.
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Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

Now with this new website, Bubby can finally share her wisdom with the rest of the world. And she's excited about it! (Which confuses us, because she used to say we were all she needed.)

Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

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