Is it all right to vent a bit before I ask you my question?
This whole week has been a nightmare. My wedding is in less than a month, and my fiance and I were planning to go to our home country to get married, because that's where our parents and almost all our relatives live. And on our way back, we were planning two weeks in Paris. Fun, right? Only, when we sent in our passports to the French Consulate by mail, the package was never delivered!
Now there's two weeks before we have to depart, and there's no sign of the passports. I'm thinking... this is already shaping up to be some story to tell the grandchildren!
But here's the immediate problem. I think it's stupid for us to just sit on our hands and wait for the passports to turn up... we should be applying for emergency papers that will allow us to make this trip (sans the Paris honeymoon). That all the wedding preparations don't go waste. But my fiance and his parents seem to think that that's too much work (and money), so we should just ask the post office to put a trace on our package and pray for things to turn out well.
That seems really stupid to me. I can't believe my fiance is prepared to miss our own wedding to avoid "wading through all those forms and trips to the Embassy and the bureaucracy". He says, "It's not the end of the world. We can just get married at the registry here." I want to marry him, but should we give up so easily on that *other* wedding we have planned? I'm prepared right now to have a rip-roaring fight with him, but something tells me that might not be constructive...
Bubby, how do I give him a kick in the seat of his pants and get him moving??
- Almost A Bride
Dear Almost A Bride,
I hope that by now you have your passports. If not, you should go to the immigration offices in your town and tell them of the trouble you are having - that your wedding in imminent and please hurry. I'm sure they will follow through and issue you a passport.
As for the wedding, don't postpone it. Have it now and when you get to your family overseas - have another service. I know a few young couples who did just that because it was very expensive for families to come to the US.
Don't forget to take your wedding dress with you and lots of luck to everyone.
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