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Wednesday, May 4, 2005
Dear Bubby,

I've been friends with a guy I met online for the past 6 months. Recently, he finally told me how he feels about me. I know in this day and age you have to be careful who you get attached to online since it may be an illusion after all... but Bubby, he's not an illusion.

I know in my heart he's legit, and he wants to marry me someday. He's said as much, but I don't want to get married right now. I want to finish getting my college degree and besides, my dad would probably kill me...I'm only 20, and he's 26.

I'm still confused and shy about him a little, and not sure how to pursue this. I've never been in love, but I have this feeling in me. It's not all the "trumpets and fireworks" that movies make it out to be. Neither of us believe in dating, but he wants to court me, and he says he'll wait for me.

Bubby, I'm falling for him, but I don't want to get hurt. What is real, lasting love like? How can I recognize it?


Dear Lasting Love,

I know that many young people have met on E-mail but you must also be very aware. You are 20 and this person is 26. The age difference isn't too bad but the intent may be. Does he live near enough for him to meet you - say for coffee or a soda. You could talk and you will get an idea what he is like.

I would NOT suggest that you travel to meet him.

You can tell about a person pretty much by his body language. Think of your own welfare first. It is also a good idea to discuss meeting him with your parents - where you are going to meet him and when. When you meet him you might decide that he is nice or just not the right person. Then again, he might be just a nice person anxious to meet nice girls.

Keep your eyes and mind open. Keep in touch with me . I would like to know how "things" are getting on.

Good Luck.
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A few years ago we introduced her to the internet and we've been getting daily e-mails from her ever since. When she was 87, we began this website. We now believe she is the oldest blogger on the Internet.

Whether Bubby is reminding us that boyfriends do not substitute for warm jackets in the winter, or that it's better to receive a compliment than a brick, she always has something to say to her granddaughters.

Now with this new website, Bubby can finally share her wisdom with the rest of the world. And she's excited about it! (Which confuses us, because she used to say we were all she needed.)

Hopefully this will be as much fun for new readers as it will surely be for her. And if not, well, as Bubby says, it will all come out in the wash.

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