I am a 23-year-old father. I have one wonderful child and another on the way. VERY SOON!
I'm in quite a pickle here. Before we became pregnant a second time around, I was considering going back to school. But now that is near impossible. The jobs I get now are not fulfilling at all. There is very little pride I take in any job. I need to supply for my family but I can't fill other needs that my girls need if I take a job only for money.
So, just a quick question. I can either take on jobs that will leave me scraping by and emotionally worn leaving me no energy to help and play at home. Or, go back to school and try and succeed, leaving us broke for the next couple of years.
If the first one, what drugs do you recommend? If the second one, how do I get my wife to move in with her mother to support this?
Nothing is every impossible if you really want to do something.
First -- I think you and your wife should take perventative measures that will keep your love alive. But two babies are enough to start a family.
Then you should talk to both sets of parents about helping you out so that you can go to school and be what you want to be. You can go to school at night.
But in the end you will be prepared for a fullfilling career. I do not think it is the best thing to move in with your parents but I do think they can be of assistance by baby-sitting so your wife can get a job - and you in school.
And if they can assist with some loan money you could pay them back. Discuss it with your parents and your wife's parents. It is always a good idea to discuss problems with your parents first.
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