I am very confused and am looking for any advice I can get.
My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year until yesterday. He and I had a very good relationship. We didn't fight that much, he was very sweet and loving and always did things for me because he wanted to make me happy. I cared for him so much and we spent pretty much everyday of that year together.
We bought a kitten together on Monday. On Wednesday he came over to tell me, out of nowhere, that he realized that he doesn't love me anymore.
An hour before this happened he called me to tell me how much he did love me. Then later he said that he was sorry and that we should still be friends, and that I could call him as long as I didn't talk about us or cry. I begged him to think about it, and asked if we could just take a break instead. He said no, I didn't do anything and there wasn't anything I could change, he just "didn't feel it anymore."
He seems fine. I however, am completely heartbroken. I thought that him and I were going to be together for a long time. I think I am having such trouble coping with this because it was so sudden. We had this really good relationship and then he just all of the sudden doesn't love me anymore.
Everyone told me that he probably didn't mean it, and that he would call in a couple of days, but he hasn't. I have never loved or missed anyone this much. I have no idea what to do. Please help me. I'm getting pretty desperate.
Dear Lost Love,
It seems to me that your boyfriend got cold feet in your relationship so don't worry. Some times this is a blessing in disguise. I think your should forget about him and look for someone else. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Better it happened now rather than later. I know that you feel "at sea" now but I am just as sure that you will meet someone much better than this fellow - he has to grow up.
Maybe he really resents the affection that you are showing your kitten. And at this time enjoy your kitten. Tell her all you want and she won't talk back and she won't leave you. You can cry and then laugh and search for someone else who will be much nicer.
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