Loved what I saw on your website and thought perhaps you could help me.
My friend is marrying into a family which I used to be friends with until they hurt me really badly by being bigoted and patronizing. I cut ties with this family over a year ago and went overseas. Now I am back and have received an invitation to her wedding to one of the sons.
I do not want to go to the wedding because I want nothing to do with the family (I know for certain that I can never be friends with that family again) but I don't want to hurt my friend or be rude.
Please help me Bubby.
Dear Angry Invite,
If you got an invitation to the wedding of your friend that meant it came from your friend's family not from the groom's. Evidently they want you to come. It seems to me you should go. You would please your friend by wishing her a happy life and at the same time you might make some new friends. Not going would really hurt your friend. Not to go you might dream up a legitimate reason such as a trip out of town. But, be sure to send good wishes.
Good time and enjoy,
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